First off, don't feel like you have to apologize for not having a punch the clock 40 hour a week job. You work part time from home, but you are also helping to raise your children and run a household. It would be too easy to simply look for a full time non-remote job, then hire a nanny or whatever. I think what you're doing is the HARDER but MORE ADMIRABLE choice. So no need to apologize or feel like you're privileged. Don't get me wrong, either of those choices has its pros and cons, but if you can make it work, then being at home more to raise your kids is the better choice.
racketboy wrote:I'm self-aware enough to know that many of my struggles are internal.
That's great! A lot of people aren't and blame other people.
When I'm getting frustrated at a job, I like to look back and remember times in the past that I was angry at a job. When I think back to a job from 5 years ago, 10 years ago, etc, I can sometimes look at the things that bothered me and realize that it wasn't that bad. Don't get me wrong, I've had many things in past jobs that WERE worth getting upset about. But getting frustrated at the day to day nonsense, I can sometimes look back and wonder why I was so mad about it. My point is, you might be mad about a particular thing in the present, but a few years from now you might feel like that sort of thing wouldn't bother you. It sometimes helps to calm me down when I'm getting mad about something in the now, as if 5 years from now a more mature version of myself wouldn't get mad about it. Of course, it doesn't always help, but it's neat when it does!
racketboy wrote:It doesn't help that she definitely plays favorites with those that are officially full-time and do most of their work in the office. But that's the known downside of mostly remote work.
It also doesn't help that I'm the only male employee aside from a couple of dance instructors (the employment situation is not the same with them anyway).
Feeling like an outsider, or like you're being excluded from a high school clique, is never a good thing. It's a very bad environment to be in.
racketboy wrote:I have been casually looking for jobs off and on when things get annoying.
I've definitely been there before! But you should really look often, not just when you get pissed enough at your job LOL. During the times when you're feeling, "This isn't so bad," is when the PERFECT job posting might go up.
racketboy wrote:More context on my newer teammate:
You know your teammate and employer best, so use your judgement with this. And I say that because sometimes it's very bad for an employer to catch wind that you're thinking about leaving. I've worked for a company that when you put in your 2 weeks notice you might be fired on the spot LOL. Anyway, if you feel close enough and comfortable enough with your teammate, and you feel they are trustworthy to keep it to themselves (if this is necessary), then you could try being open with her about what's going on with you. Explain your situation and how you feel ( basically as you have in this thread), and there may be a time when you leave the company and so you'd like to make sure she's in a good spot if and when you do.
My job that I left in 2020, I briefly explained that I felt bad leaving my guys in the deep end. But I knew for years that it was only a matter of time before I left. Being in charge of them, I couldn't really share that with them. But I did my best to make sure they knew everything I did.
racketboy wrote:does anybody have experience/tips for searching for part-time remote work? It seems like it's extra challenging despite the shift to more remote work... (more applicants now too, I guess)
Searching the usual places for job postings, it might take a long while before you find your perfect job. In addition to that, you might consider going through a recruiter as well. There's things like Zip Recruiter, but also look into if there's a local recruiter around you (do those still exist?).
I'll also add in regards to hunting for job postings, you don't always have to limit yourself to applying to the ones that are the best of the best. Me personally, a lot of times if I catch any subtle things in the posting that is off putting to me I wont even apply. But I realize I'm limiting myself by doing that. You CAN go on an interview even if you're unsure about the job. The interview isn't just the company interviewing you, you are also interviewing them. Ask questions about any detail of the job that you know would concern (bother) you. Ask about the company's atmosphere and culture (and gauge reactions because they wont ever tell you about how some people don't get along). And be completely transparent and upfront with your wants and goals. The worst that can happen is you waste a few hours. You may know this already, but having been the person that has interviewed candidates, too many people don't know this. And the ones that do really stick out in a good way. It also helps to start off a good relationship between an employer and employee. If you are upfront about where you want to be in 5 years (or whatever) as far as job and pay, you will be unlikely to be in a situation that you are now. Either they wont hire you in the first place because you career and salary goals were not what they wanted (and this is a good thing) or they are accepting of your goals, which is obviously a good thing.