dsheinem, I know what you mean. I've been on here, what almost a year now? And I remember when I first came here, I was lured in by the community's sense of companionship and general respect towards one another.
I think the sentiment towards this subject, based on other message boards, is that those words are said quite loosely in general since people get away with calling each other "douchebag fags" and calling each other out.
Personally, I kind of like the general respect on this forum, and would like to extend that respect towards the newcomers. I think they need to know that coming out and saying " LOL what a faggot" is generally not tolerable.
TBH, I haven't spent as much time lurking on here much lately, and haven't seen as much as you portray, but then again, you are a moderator and oversee a lot on a daily basis
Again, I'm right there with you and I agree that it needs to at least be toned down a bit so we don't end up eventually walkin the slippery path of /b/. ( I don't think it will get that bad, but you know what I mean.)